Friday, March 27, 2009

I think I'm probably the worst person ever

Last September I had a faaaabulous baby shower, thrown for me by my sisters-in-law, April and Katie, and my sister, Amy. It was so fun and everything was wonderful. Before I had that shower, I had 3 other showers that were also super fabulous and wonderful. After those showers I was sure to send out thank-you cards if not right away, pretty soon after. Within a few weeks.

I'm a big Thank-You note person. I think anything anyone does for you that is thoughtful or kind deserves a thank you.

With this baby shower, however, I didn't send any. This is what makes me the worst person ever. Like equal with Ossama bin Laden. Ok, maybe not that horrible...But by the time all the baby showers were over, I was seriously preparing for a baby and then she came and then I had something new that took up all my time and the thank-you's got pushed to the back burner.

Anyway. It's been 6+ months since then and I still think about this all the time. Do you think it's too late for me to send the thank-you's? Do you think I should send them with an apology for taking so long? I really think about this every couple days. And I have thank-you cards. I just feel super lame sending them now since it's taken so long. But I think I'd feel ever more super lame if I never sent them at all.

If you're reading this, and you came to the baby shower or participated in throwing it, I promise I am grateful and so thankful for everything you did and still do for me. (This doesn't count as your thank-you card...I'm just saying) I'm also really, really sorry I haven't sent you one yet.

So let me know what you think. Either way, I end up looking lame...But what about the apology in the card? Is that ultra lame??
Oh goodness.

13 comments:

Ainsley Anderson said...

People totally understand you just had a baby and are super busy. I would still send them though, I heard once with wedding thank you's you have a 9 month window... lets just say that applies to babies too.

Bekah said...

I don't think it is to late. And take it from me, I never used to be big on thank you cards,(or letters at all.), and I never sent the thank yous from my wedding, and I never forget it. I still think about it every couple of months. I don't even have a good reason like "I had a baby". So send out the thank yous. Make each one personal about the specific gift you got from each person or something they did to make your party fun and then I don't think you will need to say sorry because it will be so sincere.
Your not a bad person, just a new mommy.

erin said...

1. i think you should still send them, ESPECIALLY if you think about it every couple days
2. i do not think you need to apologize. better late than never.
3. heres my story. imet this girl at a dinner for my husbands school (the girl is a wife of one of james' classmates). i met here in august. she had a baby shower in february and invited me (lets note i didnt ever see her ever since august). i wasnt able to make the shower, but sent a gift. that girl has STILL not said thank you to be and im pretty livid about it. how can you be that rude? i dont even know you, id ont attend but still give you a gift, and you dont thank me?!?!?!?!?
so yes stacey, send them :)

Fig said...

HA ha ha ha ...

I'm laughing because I did the same thing with my wedding thank-yous. Only - I NEVER SENT THEM. The guilt still haunts me.

Anyway, I think you should absolutely still send them. No apology, no explanation. Write 'em up and send 'em out, it will make people happy. Don't stress.

Matt and Jo said...

I also have a thank-you card catastrophe to share! Matt's extended (read: WAY extended) family threw me a baby shower. I was a good girl and wrote down all the names and the gifts. When I got home I immediately WROTE OUT ALL THE CARDS because I'm super forgetful... the problem you ask? I couldn't get anyone to give me addresses. I asked Matt to find them, his mom didn't know any of them, and his Uncle wouldn't reply to my e-mails. So now...not only do I live with the guilt...I also live with the cards. (p.s. send them-no apologies)

Grandma Nell said...

Suzi - I think you should still send them - and when you do - I would do something cool like put a cute picture of Chole and you in the thank you card for them! So that way the person will be so happy that they got to see a picture of you and baby! They will be happy to get both the card and the picture! How about that! It can just be a small one printed on paper that you cut and put inside the card! They'll love it! But ALWAYS send a thank you card. You'll never forget it if you don't - just look at Bekah and Fig's experiences! I can tell you the people who never sent one to me when I have sent a gift for a wedding or shower! So, always do it! Even if it's late! But this time, how about adding a picture of your sweet little one!
Love, Mom!

Shaylen said...

It's not too late. Most people will understand. Honestly, they probably have not even thought about it, so when they receive one in the mail it will be a wonderful little surprise. :~)

Paige said...

I seriously used to stress out about the exact same thing. Some of our wedding thank you cards still haven't been sent out. Whoops! SO how bad do I look? Yeah - well I figure people prob. understand & if I give someone a gift I don't even think twice about it if I get a card or not. I love getting the cards, but I don't think badly of people who don't send them. It's not for everyone (obviously not me - rationalizing my life away over it) but life gets to you & you don't have time or just want to relax when you do have an extra 20 minutes here & there. That's my take - but we did get a wedding thank-you from a friend that had been married 2 years. They just made a joke about it & then said thank you & a little apology. I don't think it's ever too late for a thank you - but I don't plan on sending any out after 7 years of being married :)

Gena said...

I did the same thing. Some co-workers threw me a baby shower in JUNE. My baby was born first of JULY, and I don't think I got them thank-yous until OCTOBER or later! I also felt lame, but it at least made me stop feeling guilty about it because I did get them out. And I did say sorry for taking so long in the cards too! So, that's what I did.... I think it does make you feel better, even if it does make you feel kind of lame-o! But really, I think everyone understands you just had a baby!

the milners said...

Call me weird, but I think thank you cards are a waste of a stamp. People get all excited about getting one and then throw it away after two seconds...or at least I do. When I give a gift, I already know they are grateful or I wouldn't be getting them a gift! Unless there's more to the note, I don't make a big deal about getting one. When we were married, my MIL gave me such a hard time about sending out the cards within a month "because the grandmas had been asking for them." Seriously, I know it is important to some people, so I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling bad about not sending them sooner - and if you're thinking that often about them then you should (and can) still send them. But I would hope people would understand that you (meaning anyone) have a life beyond trash-bound note writing....so don't include an apology.

CHMomma said...

i think they will understand :) i would still send them sans the apology :)

Patti said...

Hey, I know I'm late in posting a comment, but I've been in Hawaii for a week.
I try not to be bugged when people don't send a thank you card, because your grandfather made SUCH a big deal about getting "the thank you" that it almost made getting whatever he gave not worth getting.
So, I try to give with the attitude that I'm giving because I WANT to give, not because I want to be thanked. However, proper etiquette says you have a year to send the thanks (at least for a wedding, so why not for a baby shower too?).
Besides, it shows you were brought up correctly when you send the thanks, so kudos to your mom for teaching you well, and super kudos to you for learning the lesson.

Meeker home said...

You are so funny. I would never have even thought about the fact that you didn't send me a thank you note. You thanked me at the party. I think that's good enough. BUT if you are stressed about it, then I don't think it's too late to still send them out. I sent my wedding thank you's out 11 months later. Hey, they say you have a year...

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